Self-Care Sunday: Stop Sweating the Small Stuff in Six Easy Steps

Well, it’s Monday, and I am sending out my Sunday Self-Care tip, and last week well I missed posting one entirely.  We have had some major hiccups with our site the past few weeks, and it has made posting a nightmare.  In the past this would drive me NUTS; I would be shouting at tech people, and spending hours trying to figure out how to fix it. (mind you I am in NO WAY a tech wizard)  But, that’s the old me; the new me doesn’t sweat the small stuff nor do I try to control situations that I cannot.

 

Studies have shown that practicing mindfulness can be a useful strategy for reflection. When we are aware of our thoughts and acknowledge them in a nonconfrontational way, we can condition ourselves to pause and examine them before we are reacting to them.

So, what does that mean exactly and how can we start to do this today?

  • Take a DEEP breath!  I know when someone says this to me when I am pissed, I want to hit them with a right hook, but in all honesty, it is the perfect solution when we feel ourselves getting aggravated. Breathe in hold for 30 seconds and blow it all out (the BS that is).
  • Smile-When a smile flashes across your face; dopamine, endorphins, and serotonin are all released into your bloodstream, making not only your body relax but also works to lower your heart rate and blood pressure.
  • Walk Away- Sometimes it is best just to walk away and let things resolve themselves.  If you can’t do that leave it there for awhile and come back when your head is clear, and your blood pressure is lower.
  • See your problem or struggles as a lesson, not a nightmare. What can you learn from this? How can you approach it differently the next time?
  • Dance- (insert eye-roll) I use this technique when I encounter people in a bad mood.  When my teenage daughter is going full Lindsey Lohan, I bust out my 80’s breakdance moves, and she can’t stay mad. Now, this doesn’t always work I have gotten a slammed door right in the middle of my moonwalk but the odds are in my favor that she cracks a smile before I am done with my routine.
  • Lastly, concentrate on the things that matter most. Leave the BS stuff you can’t control behind; trust me it will always be there you just don’t have to own or carry it.

When you are feeling stressed, choose one of my of coping methods above. I know this is easier said than done. So, when you catch yourself going off the rails, acknowledge the emotion and consciously choose to stop that behavior. Replace the hold reaction with a newer healthier one; you may have to do this several times before it becomes a habit. That’s ok we are all works in progress, and as long as we are doing the work we are headed in the right direction!

Sunday Self-Care- Weekly Tips to Make Self-Care Simple

What Is Self-Care?

Self-care is a choice to engage in the practices that are essential in maintaining an optimal level of health. This includes but is not limited to: physical, psychological, emotional, social, and spiritual components to support healthy well-being.

 

The first place to start is knowing your worth.  The relationship you have with yourself should take precedence over everything.

How do YOU Improve Self-Worth?

#1 You believe you’re GOOD ENOUGH– If you don’t think so who will?

#2 Trust your gut– When you learn to listen to your intuition and rely on your feelings your decisions will be your own. When trusting your gut feelings, you will realize that when demands are pushed upon you, you will want to respond with what works best for you, or for both parties, rather than what works best for everyone else except you.

#3 Learn to Love Yourself- Self-love is being your own BFF.  It’s treating yourself with the same respect, compassion, and empathy you would treat your close friends.

#4 Positive Positive Positive-Putting yourself down can be damaging to your self-esteem and self-confidence. Start the day with a positive affirmation. Look in the mirror and say;”I believe in myself,” “I am kick ass!” (my personal favorite)

#5 Surround Your-Self with People Who Build You Up- I know this is a tough one. The people closest to us can be our most prominent critics. If you can’t remove them from your life limit the time, you spend with them. Find a tribe that builds you up and sees your worth.

The way you choose to measure your worth life a direct impact on your life!  So, choose wisely, be kind to yourself, forgive yourself and most importantly create a life of meaning and purpose.

 

 

 

 

The Ultimate Homemaking Bundle Over 106 Resources

It’s not like you expected homemaking to be a piece of cake.

But you had no idea you’d be so tired, frustrated, and overwhelmed, right?

I’ve often felt the same way. When I first became a wife and mom years ago, I needed GPS to find my way around the kitchen. Oh, and developing systems to efficiently handle laundry and cleaning? Um… do I have to answer that?

Homemaking is filled with mundane tasks that never end, but here’s the thing: do you want to spend more time overwhelmed by things you don’t enjoy?

No, no, you do not.

So what if you could find resources to help you become better at homemaking (and maybe even learn to love it)?

Well, look no further, because I found something that might be just what you need: The Ultimate Homemaking Bundle.

For six days only, everything you need (and then some) is in one fabulous package, for the most affordable price ever. (Seriously, just wait until I tell you the price.)

This year’s edition of the Ultimate Homemaking Bundle includes 50 ebooks, 21 eCourses, 14 printables, 2 videos, 2 audios, 2 summits, and 1 membership site.

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5 Ways to Finish 2016 Strong

 

2016

 

For many of us, 2016 is a year we would like to forget, put it in our rearview mirror and NEVER look back!  But to make 2017 “Kickass” we need to finish 2016 strong.

 

Here are five ways you can achieve just that:

 

  • Starting today journal every day. By getting into the habit of writing and consciously looking back over your journal, you’re able to track your personal patterns especially the ones you no longer want to repeat in 2017.

 

  • Create a personal value system for yourself. This system will give you structure and purpose by helping you determine what is meaningful and important to you.   You can add or choose your own categories.

                   There are usually four main categories:

                            *Personal Values

                             *Spiritual Values

                             *Family Values

                             *Career Values

  • Self-care should be a part of your daily routine; if it isn’t already.  For my ladies out there we tend to care for EVERYONE else before we spend even 10 minutes on ourselves. We can’t have a KICKASS 2017 if were tired and run down all the time. Take 30 minutes walk, ride your bike or go to the gym. Trust me you will feel FABULOUS!!!

 

  • Learn the word NO!!!  I know we think we can do everything but WE DON’T HAVE TO; TO PROVE OUR VALUE.  We can say no and still be seen as a strong, very capable & confident women!

 

  • Start a daily spiritual practice. You could lump this into self-care but I tend to think this area needs a lot more time and thought.  When we spend time alone in silence or in prayer we can start to see and feel the inner essence of who we really are.  Clarity happens most often in silence.

 

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Wishing you all an incredible New Year!!

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Simple Self-Care Tips

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Self-care is any purposeful  action that takes care of your mind, body and spirit.  Carving out time for self-care is tough for most people and for women it is usually the last thing on our minds. As a mother and a wife most days I place myself on the back burner to care for my family. But am I doing the right thing for my them when I do that? Not no but hell no!  You see when we don’t care for ourselves first we can not properly care for anyone else. Say that with me again,” if we don’t take care of ourselves we can not take care of anyone else properly.”  Without self-care we are not giving our families, friends and colleagues our best selves we are only giving them splintered fragments of our burnt out selves.

Imagine if you could give the people who matter most the BEST you every day(OK not every day but you get the point) The only way this can happen is if we take care of ourselves first. Self-care is unique for everyone. If meditating or exercise isn’t your favorite then try coloring, reading or even watching a documentary. There is something out there for every one of us, you just need to start looking for it.

Below I have provided some ideas to help get you started in developing your own self-care plan. It can be overwhelming to consider taking on many new things. So don’t add one or two to your daily routine something is always better than nothing.

 

Sleep- This is the area where I have struggled and lack of sleep can cause a myriad of health issues too. Here’s what I do to ensure I get enough sleep.

  1. I go to bed at the same time every night.
  2. I do not eat anything after 7:00 pm.
  3. I have a night time ritual so my mind can prepare itself to shut down and allow me to rest.  How I prepare for a good nights rest is I wash my face, get on comfy pj’s and have a hot cup of chamomile tea. These steps indicate to my body and mind its bedtime.

 

Nutrition- We need to give our body the proper fuel, so it can keep up with our hectic schedules.

  1. Breakfast is the most important meal of the day! Pop-Tarts and cereal bars are not breakfast:) If you don’t the time to make a proper breakfast my go to breakfast is a LSVIBE VIVA VANILLA SHAKE filled with berries. It’s delicious and I am not starving in an hour!!
  2. It is not always possible but try to eat three meals and two snacks a day. To help me achieve this I prepare some snacks and meals on Sunday evenings. Meal prep has been a game changer for our family and it has helped us save money because I am not calling Papa John’s to bail me out anymore.
  3. Try to eat high-quality whole foods and keep the boxed food on the supermarket shelves.

 

Have Fun- This seems simple right? But when was the last time you REALLY allowed yourself to have fun? We get so caught up in the day to day BS we forget to JUST HAVE FUN.

  1. Watch your favorite comedy. Lately, I have been watching repeats of Modern Family and laughing my ass off.
  2. Do something spur of the moment like bowling, putt putt golf or go-karts. Your kids will love it and you will be giving them a lifetime of memories. Nothing like watching their crazy mom zip around the go-kart track and in my case get in trouble for running kids off the track. ( I swear it wasn’t on purpose:)
  3.  Sing even if you can’t! Put on your favorite tunes and rock out.
  4.  While your belting out your favorite song show off your moves. Dancing is freeing and guess what it counts as exercise too! Check out one of my absolute favorites here!

 

Time- Give yourself quiet time every day. Trust me it is necessary to quiet the mind even if it is just for a few moments and just breathe. By consciously taking a few deep breaths for a few minutes each day, you’ll be able to think more clearly, you will be more resilient, less stressed and feel much more relaxed.

 

Meditate- Not one of my go to’s but from what I hear it really does work. You can meditate just about anywhere the car while waiting to pick up kids from school, in your bed before you get up and in the bathroom when you’re hiding from a cranking toddler. Now if I was meditating this is how I would do it click here! (CAUTION profanity and laughter ahead)

 

Art Journal-  I have only been doing this for a few months but wow it has had such an impact on me. Trust me I am no Picasso and you don’t have to be either. I personally enjoy collage, I find it gives me a place to voice my concerns,  a sense of peace and it gives me clarity in areas where I might have struggled in the past.

Here are a few of my favorite Art Journal Sites:

Sure as the World (the inspiration I needed to start art journaling)

A Free Spirit Life  (my first art journal class)

Creative Dream Incubator ( awesome FREE art journaling class)

My Latest Creation:

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Set Limits- It’s OK to say No! I know we can do it all we’re women(sorry guys) but we don’t have to, to prove our worth. Also, cut back on the time you spend with people who don’t make you feel good about yourself; spend time with people who build you up not tear you down.

 

Make self-care a priority, not something that happens (or doesn’t happen!) by accident.  And no, you don’t have to be a rock star at it; start slow and “just do it.” Not for your family! Not for your co-workers! But FOR YOU!

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