A few weeks back I wrote a post on the importance of having a Strong Spiritual Foundation. There are several critical elements to this process, and for me, the first step was to let go of A LOT. What we need to Let Go of can look different to each of us. It can be a generational story that you have picked up and chosen to carry, a past hurt from a family member or lover; all of which can leave us fragile, scared and hurt.
By holding on to our past and not letting go of it, we cannot step into our divine purpose. When we continuously play the highlight reel of our pain over and over, we become stuck. We must embrace our past, accept it and let go. Now, I know that this is not an easy task, and others have gravely wounded most of us; people we trusted and those scars run deep. But I want to ask you: Who are you helping when you strap on those hurts and carry them like a badge of honor? Are these constant reminders helping you be the BEST you, you can be?
I know how incredibly hard letting go can be; I carried those bags for decades. Am I going to tell you it’s easy to do not no, but HELL NO; it’s freaking hard. BUT it is SO very worth it. I realized as long as I was carrying those wounds and not freeing myself of what they represent I was NEVER going to be able to step into the real work I was here to do in this lifetime. A colleague of mine Timothy Gay wrote an incredible piece on Doing the Work and why so many of us resist it; I highly recommend reading it. It can give you some perspective on doing the work and the importance of being gentle with yourself along the way.
Letting Go is a big chunk of the work. Some people have a difficulty letting go of their pain about their past because they have carried it for far too long that now it has become an intricate part of their identity. Many of us fear who we might be without this pain. Let me say this to you; do not keep yourself in chains when letting go is the key. Don’t allow your self-limiting beliefs define who you indeed are.
“If you let go a little, you will have a little peace. If you let go a lot, you will have a lot of peace.” ~Ajahn Chah
Here are a few quick ways to start the Letting Go Process:
- Let Go of the idea that you have control of others or their actions.
- If you’re going to worry; worry only about the things YOU can change.
- Ditch the victim role; become the HEROINE of your story.
- Accept what is and MOVE ON
- Stay present and be in the moment
- Burn that shit! Ritual can help us a lot in the process; I wrote many of my hurts down and burned them.
- Think of what this experience might have taught you.
- Forgive yourself first and then the other person.
Even though your pain might feel like a comfortable old friend; it is time to send it packing. It is time for you to begin to rewrite your story and allow happiness back into your life.
If you’re ready to start this process and are unsure how to start, I want to encourage you to join me starting on March 19th for a 4-week course on the Art of Unlearning. For more information and to get exclusive access to this course click here to register.