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My post title post might ruffle some feathers, but I am so glad Marianne started this discussion. Since this week’s posts are about how to improve our emotional wellness; I felt Marianne’s series speaks directly to the importance of the need to care for ourselves first.

When a fellow Mama blogging friend of mine, Marianne, asked me to be a part of a post on what “Having it All” meant to me, I have to admit that I had no clue where to even begin.   I tried to write my response at least a dozen times, but I could not find the words to articulate what having it all even looked like to me.  I had not given it much thought before Marianne’s request.  “Having it all” was a phrase I associated with these uber-successful women who worked corporate jobs, made mad money; who had equally successful husbands.  I mean that’s what society was touting as having it all right?  I mean how could a stay at home/work at home mom, who lives in a modest house with two well-adjusted kids and a stable husband be considered a woman who  “had it all”? That actually sounds pretty boring to me. By all accounts, I had given up. I forfeited my dreams for my family’s well-being; so how could I ever be someone who could honestly say that they had it all.

The more I thought about it, the more I realized that having it all can look completely different depending on who you ask.  One woman might say having it all is the corporate job; another might say it’s being home with her children, and another may believe that being a work at home mom is at the height of “having it all.”  One thing for certain though, it is necessary for every woman to give something up in order to “have it all.”  Whether it be, time with their kids, time with their husbands, their overall sanity or following that dream that they once had.  Having it all means, making the life choices that you believe will bring you the most happiness.

Check out Marianne’s post to read what having it all means to some of the today’s women and I encourage you to think about what having it all means to you.  Be proud of the choices you are making and realize that the only one who can define your all is you!

 

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15 thoughts on “You Can Have it ALL! The Lie We Keep Telling Ourselves

  1. I agree that we women are under a lot of pressure to “have it all” And we get a lot of pressure from others to live up to a certain standard. I have friends who love staying at home. And I have friends who would go crazy staying home. And I have lots of friends who aren’t planning to have kids. I think we need to realize that there isn’t such a thing as having it all. But we can aspire to have more of what makes us happy. And it is totally cool that this might mean different things to different people.

    Posted on May 10, 2017 at 11:33 pm
  2. I definitely feel we venture into dangerous territory when we try to define our own personal success based on standards set by society. There’s no one right way to live life. A truly fulfilling life is the one that fits you (uniquely) in any given moment.

    Posted on May 11, 2017 at 2:32 am
    1. I agree with you 100%. You need to be true to yourself and embrace it.

      Posted on May 13, 2017 at 9:33 pm
  3. I’ll check out the post! Having it all to me means being content and happy with where you are in life. And I am!

    Posted on May 14, 2017 at 1:03 am
  4. no matter what I always envision Samantha from Sex and the City. She “had it all” and not too long later that her ‘having it all’ really didn’t mean as much to her because it was just the vision of it and she realized that she had it all in her own way.

    Posted on May 14, 2017 at 11:28 am
  5. I agree with you completely. Having it all is different from person to person. I believe I have it all based soley on I have a loving husband and 3 healthy children!

    Posted on May 14, 2017 at 5:14 pm
  6. Sounds to me as though you already have it all. Of course, I’m not very materialistic and value relationships with friends and family and having time to spend with them as a big part of having it all. Other than that, I’m happy if I have a comfortable home, nutritious food to eat when I’m hungry, a computer and internet connection, a phone, beautiful places nearby to walk, and being healthy enough to take those walks.

    Posted on May 14, 2017 at 9:04 pm
  7. I agree you can’t have it all. I think what’s more important is to focus on the blessings you do have in your life. I try to teach my children this and sometimes they don’t completely understand. It’s an ongoing life lesson we are working on. I think our society and constant new trends and products being pushed on us make it difficult to let go of the notion you can have it all. It’s really challenging.

    Posted on May 14, 2017 at 11:07 pm
  8. This is an amazing post with wonderful insight into mom life vs having it all. You are completely right we all have different views

    Posted on May 15, 2017 at 3:04 am
  9. This is a great question to ask ourselves. Having it all, to me, is having my health and humor. Anything else is icing on the cake.

    Posted on May 15, 2017 at 3:20 am
  10. THE BEST CAN ONLY BE ACHEIVED WHEN WE SET OUR OWN STANDARDS AND LIVE LIFE FOR THE FUN OF IT AND NOT FOR PEOPLE, THIS IS A DEEP READ AS IT CUTS ACROSS ALOT OF PRESSURE ISSUES, THANKS FOR THE SHARE AS I WILL SHARE THIS TO FRIENDS.

    Posted on May 15, 2017 at 6:56 am
  11. Having it all is the biggest of truths maybe it’s because I’m 40 I have figured it out the hard way. I just try to take it one day at a time and happiness has meant more. Thanks for sharing!

    Posted on May 15, 2017 at 12:50 pm
  12. This is a great post. I don’t know if we can have it all. When we are pulled in different direction, something has to give.

    Posted on May 15, 2017 at 2:32 pm
    1. I totally agree and I found this out the hard way:(

      Posted on May 15, 2017 at 3:23 pm
  13. You know what, I don’t know that this is a lie. I think it depends on what the “all” is. Family and job you love? Yes. Living a relaxed life of a hippie whilst being rich? Probably not, unless you are a trust fund baby. XDD But seriously, I get your point. It is easy to try doing too much, and that can take away from certain things.

    Posted on May 16, 2017 at 8:51 am