My post title post might ruffle some feathers, but I am so glad Marianne started this discussion. Since this week’s posts are about how to improve our emotional wellness; I felt Marianne’s series speaks directly to the importance of the need to care for ourselves first.
When a fellow Mama blogging friend of mine, Marianne, asked me to be a part of a post on what “Having it All” meant to me, I have to admit that I had no clue where to even begin. I tried to write my response at least a dozen times, but I could not find the words to articulate what having it all even looked like to me. I had not given it much thought before Marianne’s request. “Having it all” was a phrase I associated with these uber-successful women who worked corporate jobs, made mad money; who had equally successful husbands. I mean that’s what society was touting as having it all right? I mean how could a stay at home/work at home mom, who lives in a modest house with two well-adjusted kids and a stable husband be considered a woman who “had it all”? That actually sounds pretty boring to me. By all accounts, I had given up. I forfeited my dreams for my family’s well-being; so how could I ever be someone who could honestly say that they had it all.
The more I thought about it, the more I realized that having it all can look completely different depending on who you ask. One woman might say having it all is the corporate job; another might say it’s being home with her children, and another may believe that being a work at home mom is at the height of “having it all.” One thing for certain though, it is necessary for every woman to give something up in order to “have it all.” Whether it be, time with their kids, time with their husbands, their overall sanity or following that dream that they once had. Having it all means, making the life choices that you believe will bring you the most happiness.
Check out Marianne’s post to read what having it all means to some of the today’s women and I encourage you to think about what having it all means to you. Be proud of the choices you are making and realize that the only one who can define your all is you!
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