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A few weeks back I wrote a post on the importance of having a Strong Spiritual Foundation.  There are several critical elements to this process, and for me, the first step was to let go of A LOT.  What we need to Let Go of can look different to each of us. It can be a generational story that you have picked up and chosen to carry, a past hurt from a family member or lover; all of which can leave us fragile, scared and hurt.

By holding on to our past and not letting go of it, we cannot step into our divine purpose. When we continuously play the highlight reel of our pain over and over, we become stuck.  We must embrace our past, accept it and let go.  Now, I know that this is not an easy task, and others have gravely wounded most of us; people we trusted and those scars run deep. But I want to ask you: Who are you helping when you strap on those hurts and carry them like a badge of honor?  Are these constant reminders helping you be the BEST you, you can be?

I know how incredibly hard letting go can be; I carried those bags for decades. Am I going to tell you it’s easy to do not no, but HELL NO; it’s freaking hard. BUT it is SO very worth it. I realized as long as I was carrying those wounds and not freeing myself of what they represent I was NEVER going to be able to step into the real work I was here to do in this lifetime. A colleague of mine Timothy Gay wrote an incredible piece on Doing the Work and why so many of us resist it; I highly recommend reading it. It can give you some perspective on doing the work and the importance of being gentle with yourself along the way.

Letting Go is a big chunk of the work. Some people have a difficulty letting go of their pain about their past because they have carried it for far too long that now it has become an intricate part of their identity.  Many of us fear who we might be without this pain. Let me say this to you; do not keep yourself in chains when letting go is the key. Don’t allow your self-limiting beliefs define who you indeed are.

“If you let go a little, you will have a little peace. If you let go a lot, you will have a lot of peace.” ~Ajahn Chah

Here are a few quick ways to start the Letting Go Process:

  • Let Go of the idea that you have control of others or their actions.
  • If you’re going to worry; worry only about the things YOU can change.
  • Ditch the victim role; become the HEROINE of your story.
  • Accept what is and MOVE ON
  • Stay present and be in the moment
  • Burn that shit!  Ritual can help us a lot in the process; I wrote many of my hurts down and burned them.
  • Think of what this experience might have taught you.
  • Forgive yourself first and then the other person.


Even though your pain might feel like a comfortable old friend; it is time to send it packing. It is time for you to begin to rewrite your story and allow happiness back into your life.


If you’re ready to start this process and are unsure how to start, I want to encourage you to join me starting on March 19th for a 4-week course on the Art of Unlearning. For more information and to get exclusive access to this course click here to register.

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25 thoughts on “The Art of Letting Go-Building Your Spiritual Foundation

  1. One of my favorite sayings is “it is what it is” my husband says doesn’t affect my world. Maybe it comes with age this letting go and not worrying.

    Posted on 02/26/2018 at 1:08 am
    1. You and the Coach of the New England Patriots:) You’re right and as I age I don’t carry many things with me. But for many, it is the decades-long pain that is hard to let go of but hopefully when we get the right tools we can be more like you and your husband.

      Posted on 02/26/2018 at 1:59 pm
  2. We definitely have a tendency to bring out the worst in ourselves. These are great ideas and your four-week course sounds wonderful.

    Posted on 02/26/2018 at 3:10 am
    1. Yes, especially women we can give ourselves a real ass kicking at times. Thanks and I hope you’re joining us

      Posted on 02/26/2018 at 1:57 pm
  3. This was a good read for me especially right now. I am going through something and have been unable to let it go but I must if I’m ever to move on. Plus I can’t control it so I have no choice.

    Posted on 02/26/2018 at 4:00 am
    1. Laura, you’re so right. When we learn that we do not have control over others and only our own actions it makes letting go a lot easier. Stay Strong

      Posted on 02/26/2018 at 1:57 pm
  4. Writing things down can be very therapeutic, especially if we need to let go of anger towards someone who is no longer in our lives. And yes, burning the paper afterwards can help us to finally let the hurt or anger go.

    Posted on 02/26/2018 at 4:09 am
  5. Carrying baggage throughout our lives is so harmful to the human mind. It prevents us from letting in the new stuff. Finding a way to release it does wonders, no matter what method is your preference, from talking about it, writing it down and burning it, talking to yourself and finding solutions. There are many ways.

    Posted on 02/26/2018 at 4:58 am
    1. Not only our minds but our bodies too. So many illnesses can be traced make to stress and the effects of emotional pain. For us to have a strong body and mind we must learn to let go and be present on a daily basis.

      Posted on 02/26/2018 at 2:01 pm
  6. This is something I need in my life. I have started meditation and this will be a nice addition. Thank you for sharing.

    Posted on 02/26/2018 at 5:13 am
    1. Mediation is a wonderful practice and in my course, we will talk more about it. I hope you join us:)

      Posted on 02/26/2018 at 2:03 pm
  7. This is super super important. So glad you wrote about this! Letting go can be so difficult and the more guidance there is, the better. Our world is so cluttered with unnecessary stress in my opinion.

    Posted on 02/26/2018 at 5:52 am
    1. Sondra, I hear you! If we can all work on being present and removing unnecessary stress the world would be such a happier place.

      Posted on 02/26/2018 at 2:02 pm
  8. This was a great post! Letting go of the past is so hard sometimes, but so worth it.

    Posted on 02/26/2018 at 11:55 am
  9. Thank you for writing this! It is so true, carrying baggage like this adds so much extra stress and holds us back from true enjoyment of life.

    Posted on 02/26/2018 at 12:09 pm
  10. This was an inspiring read, I definitely could take on board some of these tips toward letting go!

    Posted on 02/26/2018 at 2:19 pm
  11. This is something I definitely struggle with! It’s easier to hold a grudge and to work on yourself and learn to let things go by putting faith in a greater being… but first you actually have to build up your faith – because who’s going to give up their life to something they don’t know about?

    Posted on 02/26/2018 at 3:09 pm
  12. Reading your post, its actually easier said than done. I was battling with ‘letting go’ of my feelings last week and struggled to do it. Your actions and steps are well thought off, but its so hard to do. I believe time will help in the end.

    Posted on 02/26/2018 at 5:27 pm
  13. Very good points here. I like that you not only shared your personal experience with letting go of the past and how important it is to. But you also shared ways to do so. Very thought provoking post!

    Posted on 02/26/2018 at 7:28 pm
  14. I have been reading up alot about real self help lately, and I think this fits in well with the narrative that I have been uncovering. We are supposed to be the heroes of our own stories. Love your advice!

    Posted on 02/26/2018 at 9:22 pm
  15. Ýes I totally agree with you. Writing or noting down things has really helped me. Thans for bringing this up.

    Posted on 02/26/2018 at 11:28 pm
  16. These are lovely tips. This fits in nicely with a lot of the mindfulness work I do with children – although this is ideal for adult age. Thanks!

    Posted on 02/27/2018 at 1:47 am
  17. The art of letting go, I read an article once of this famous line. Its never easy but life must move on and the only way is to let go and look for the happiness that is waiting for you ahead.

    Posted on 02/27/2018 at 1:49 am
  18. I’ve learned many things through my own experiences and from the experiences if my trusted friends, and that includes the ways of letting go. I learned to moved on easily, because the faster we moved on, the quicker the new beginning starts.

    Posted on 03/02/2018 at 2:55 am
  19. Choosing is STRENGTH. Burying is FEAR. Big difference. When you”re CHOOSing to be okay, you are committing to doing WHATEVER IT TAKES to be healthy. You are diligent to keep working at it until the past and the hurt has NO power over you. You are loving yourself to do the hard work to get the crud cleared out so that the healthy things can become your new way of living life. When you”re burying your hurts, you are refusing to deal with them. You are operating out of defeat, discouragement and denial. Can you truly be okay if you have buried pain and crud in you? When crud comes up in my life, I make the choice to deal with it RIGHT as it happens. I ask myself, what is true? You have to go to God for the truth. What does God say? Who am I to God? I tell God the truth about my hurt and then I face the pain of what was done to me and how it made me feel. Then I let it go and forgive. These things are not done once, twiceBUT EVERY TIME CRUD COMES UP. Great question!

    Posted on 03/05/2018 at 6:20 pm